Happy couples are deliberate about bringing more fun into their relationships. Fun is one of the main ingredients I observed when studying the happiest couples and there are three parts to fun that you can begin to practice right now.
One: Anticipation...
Looking forward to a good time is a big part of fun. Making a date, planning the date, getting ready for the date, talking about how much fun it is going to be and how much you are looking forward to it. The more you talk before the date, the more anticipation you are going to build up.
Two: The Actual Event...
Now it is time to practice being in the moment. Enjoy each moment. In life, "down" and "up" are just directions. You can laugh just as hard at breakdowns in your plan as you can when things go perfectly. Suspend judgments. Take what you get and make a game out of enjoying each moment as much as you can.
Three: Reflection...
Use the following days to talk about your experience. The moment the conversation goes away, so will the enjoyment that you experienced. It's like last Sunday's football game. It is not only fun to plan to go and then actually go to the game. It is also fun to talk about the game the days afterwards... rerunning every exciting part over and over.
The more you continue to surprise and delight each other, the more you'll want to be with each other in a romantic way versus a negative and unromantic way.
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