How to spice up your sex after 20 years of marriage

there is an old saying, if you dont use it, YOU LOSE IT!!!

there is no specific technique to spicing up your sex-life. Its a personal journey that requires you to do what?

Thats right, you have to take the first step!!!

Thats all it takes, seriously!

1) start small - try flowers, kisses, romantic dinners

2) foreplay is not forgotten - dont forget the importance of foreplay, not just for sexual stimulation... but i imagine 20 years of marriage you get right to the point, right? Well, stop getting to the point. Sex is an adventure. Its supposed to fun and enjoyable. Climaxing is great, but so should be the hill that you climb up to that point

3) REGRESS TO YOUR 20s!!!! - it sounds lame to do all that small stuff, i mean afterall... you have been married 20 years. But the best way to re-train your behavior is start from scratch again.

4) Medical intervention - we have all seen all these damn commercials for viagra and extenz and etc etc.... I wouldn't recommend getting all wide-eyed.... If you are having some libido problems: try eating healthier, exercising.

in a recent study it found that eating properly and exercising only 20 minutes per week (YES PER WEEK!) increased libido and stamina for women and men 20%.

The top 5 female erogenous zones

The neck

Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.

The ear lobes

Sucking ear lobes isn't for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you're there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you're fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.

The nipples

On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don't forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn't grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.

The belly button

Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.

The G Spot

Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.

A happy marriage is good for your blood pressure, finds study...

"When people are depressed they feel more insecure about their relationships and concerned that their partner may not care about them or find them valuable," said Dr Allen, who is based at Melbourne's Monash University.

"Having sex helps them feel that closeness and security."

Turning to depressed single women, she said she had found a trend towards more casual sex than with happier singles.

After delivering her findings to the conference, Dr Allen was asked whether having sex could be an effective aid for lessening or beating depression.

"We really don't know but we presume it helps as it gives these women opportunities to be close to their partner and loved," she said.